Life After Loss, Grief, or Pain

In my experience of grieving a loss, like losing our father, as much as I miss him deeply, losing him here on earth has been my saving more than my loss. 

Pain has this way of stirring something within us that either pushes us to be better or be bitter. Sometimes we start by being bitter because the pain is overbearing and then work our way in to choosing better. But it stirs something in us with a knowing that we have to do better. That we have to build on making our lives worth living, pursuing things of meaning that adds value to the rest of our journey here on earth. It brings death closer to home as a reality that we will all come to and need to prepare for - whether in our pursuit of the relationships we keep or the goals and aspirations we have in this life.

For us who have witnessed loved ones transiting from life to death, in THAT moment where the gut wrenching pain of loss is unbearable, we realize, that truly nothing else matters. Not who was right or wrong in the argument the week before  or the who gets the house and the money or the who was their best friend.

In those moments of pain and the journey of grief thereafter, all we really want back or feel that matters is, them - the human being. The person we made memories with. The stories we shared. The life they lived, the heart and message they carried. And for us who believe, what matters on that death bed or moment is SALVATION.

All throughout the history of mankind, by God's design, death happens so that there may be life. And for us who believe, life in eternity. 

All of these losses, these deaths on the news - the murders and car accidents tugs at the heart in a way that only God understands. The grief is heavy but I am hopeful, that In reading all of the terrible things happening around us, that we are reminded of the truth that death is real, our eternity matters and our pursuit of life in the meantime is what determines that eternity.

In saying this, of all the death on the news these past few days, one death that really shook the global faith community is that of Charlie Kirk. I believe that Charlie Kirk's assassination tugged at the heart of many because he was bold and loud about the truth (of Jesus)  that the world has tried to shame and blame and tried to keep at bay these past decade in our era. We feel the burden of the loss of his life (and others) because we're called to do the same. Because  we're called to do something.

I'm challenged to ask myself, What will we do about this loss and his example? How can we add value and be an impact in our generation? How are we adding to the Kingdom and not hiding from it? How are we being doers of the word and not just hearers (or know-ers)?

People's eternity matters.

May our God lead us in peace and truth in to what He knows we can do while we're here in the land of the living, and may He grant us the courage/ boldness to do it well. 💕 🙏🏽 

     My version of life after loss, in this season.💕